Author Archive: Sean

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We Are Individuals – And We Happen to Parent

We Are Individuals – And We Happen to Parent

[ 1 ] 10:06 am |

On many occasions I’ve read, in this blog and in other spaces, about how mothers of fussy or colicky babies often feel like frauds. They fear that they are the cause of their child’s fussiness or that they must be doing something wrong if their baby isn’t sleeping. They feel guilty, embarrassed, like failures. I’ve […]

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The Truth About Parenting

The Truth About Parenting

[ 0 ] 8:30 am |

Last month my post encouraged mothers (and fathers) to recognize when it was time to come out of the bunker mode, the take it one day at a time – we’ll get through this mode, and start to think once again about other important aspects of their lives. This could include their relationships, their hobbies, […]

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Rejoining the World

Rejoining the World

[ 4 ] 6:42 am |

Sooner or later it will be time – perhaps not yet, but one day you’re going to recognize that it’s time to come out of your hole. You’ll step tentatively at first, maybe squint a bit. You might even be surprised to see what your partner looks like by the light of day, not as […]

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An Inconvenient Truth: Parenting is a Tough Job

An Inconvenient Truth: Parenting is a Tough Job

[ 2 ] 9:51 am |

It’s been a rough couple of weeks. Emily had a stomach bug, then Chloe had a stomach bug which turned into a cold, which turned into some other flu-like virus. Then Emily got the flu-like virus, and now Julie has it. And throughout all of this, the lack of sleep, the vomiting in the middle […]

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Beware of Opinions that Pass for Gospel

Beware of Opinions that Pass for Gospel

[ 7 ] 2:05 pm |

The other day, an acquaintance of Julie’s asked for help with her child’s sleep through a posting on Facebook. Instead of help, she got a link to Dangers of Crying it Out: Damaging children and their relationships for the long term, by Dr. Darcia Narvaez. When Julie told me, I sighed, gritted my teeth, then […]

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Travelling with a Colicky or Spirited Child

Travelling with a Colicky or Spirited Child

[ 0 ] 11:09 am |

We’ve been on vacation in Florida now for about 2 weeks, which is why I haven’t posted lately. (By the way, to any American readers, I am very jealous that you have Florida. Thank you for sharing it with us. The warmest we’ve got is Victoria, and it rains there all winter.) We have travelled […]

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The Spirited Child:  Living with No Filters

The Spirited Child: Living with No Filters

[ 6 ] 10:13 am |

For Chloe, the world has no off switch and no tuner. In my last post I talked about perceptiveness. It’s one of the most impressive traits of a spirited child. They don’t miss anything, and it can be a wonder to watch. But the flip side of seeing everything is being overwhelmed by it all, […]

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Santa with the Dark Cheeks

Santa with the Dark Cheeks

[ 6 ] 9:58 am |

As I mentioned in a previous post, fussy babies often make for amazing children. Don’t take my word for it. If you look at the literature out there, you’ll see that you’re in for a real treat. But don’t go supposing amazing means easy. Forgive me for saying, but I liken a spirited child to […]

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We Never Meant to be the Uptight Parents

We Never Meant to be the Uptight Parents

[ 10 ] 1:43 pm |

I remember quite clearly a discussion I had with Julie before Chloe was born. We were talking about how we’d raise our kids – the attitudes we’d take, our style of parenting. I said to Julie: “Don’t worry. We’re not going to be like those uptight parents who plan everything out, fret over every little […]

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Being a Man and a Father

Being a Man and a Father

[ 0 ] 10:55 am |

Let’s face it; the bar’s not set that high for fathers of young children. Some score points just for sticking around. Most get nods of approval if they don’t forget to bring the kid’s snacks along to the park or the mall. But if this is the measure for dads, I’m in big trouble (today […]

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