Tag: Guilt

Chrissy’s Story: Colic, Guilt and Postpartum Depression

Chrissy’s Story: Colic, Guilt and Postpartum Depression

[ 4 ] 2:27 pm |

My story starts before my little girl was born. Man, she was a character even in my belly. She was ALWAYS moving in there! And boy, did she give my ribs and bladder a work out; being so petite (she was born 6lbs 6ozs pretty much right on time) she had neverending room to play. […]

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The Myth Of “You Made Him That Way”

The Myth Of “You Made Him That Way”

[ 2 ] 3:00 pm |

Do you ever wonder if you caused your baby’s fussiness or high need behaviours? If so, you’re not alone. When you see other people’s babies sitting contentedly in the stroller, or sleeping through the night, or just generally being a joy to have around, it’s hard not to feel like you’re doing something wrong. But […]

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You’re Not Letting Me Have the Happy Home I Wanted (A Letter to My High Need Child)

You’re Not Letting Me Have the Happy Home I Wanted (A Letter to My High Need Child)

[ 8 ] 6:16 pm |

To my darling high need child: Before I start, let me emphasize that I love you more than life itself. I would do anything for you, and wouldn’t trade you for anything in the world. BUT…….. The past _______ months/years haven’t been easy for me and your father/mother/sibling(s). I know they haven’t been easy for […]

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The Aftermath of Colic: Are You ‘Over It’?

The Aftermath of Colic: Are You ‘Over It’?

[ 0 ] 9:51 am |

My kids, both former colicky babies, are now 12 and 10. In one way, colic is just a “thing” that happened over a decade ago. And yet, I believe that for many of us, colic stays with us in one form or another for many, many years. When my daughter had colic, I remember one […]

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Heidi’s Story: A Hard Earned Love Story

Heidi’s Story: A Hard Earned Love Story

[ 9 ] 10:36 am |

About two weeks after her birth, my husband found me within her nursery weeping in the rocker, desperately trying to get her to latch. He promptly got a bottle, handed it to me and spoke three words: “Feed your daughter”.

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Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day

[ 2 ] 8:38 am |

I remember my first Mother’s Day well, and it wasn’t for the reason that lots of other moms remember their first Mother’s Day. My daughter was just shy of 3 months old and screaming up a storm while we were surrounded by family and friends at our big annual Mother’s Day brunch. Little kids were […]

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Feelings I Never Thought I’d Have

Feelings I Never Thought I’d Have

[ 23 ] 2:00 pm |

As the parent of a fussy baby who sounded like he was in the worst pain possible for at least a few hours each day, I was confident he had some type of medical issue. My husband and I dragged our screaming infant to the pediatrician about once a week for a while…pleading for her […]

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Those Precious Newborn Days (Or So I Hear)

Those Precious Newborn Days (Or So I Hear)

[ 12 ] 2:39 pm |

“Enjoy these early days. They go so fast” Ha. If I had a nickle for every time someone said that to me in the newborn days. In fairness, some people didn’t know my daughter had colic. But some people did, and still said it. “They’ll never be this little again.” “They won’t always be this […]

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A Mom’s Colic Primer

A Mom’s Colic Primer

[ 35 ] 10:26 am |

My daughter screamed, on average, 20 hours a day, for four months. Forty-five minute increments were her regular stretches of sleep. My husband and I would high-five if we got an hour and a half stretch. She had colic. All of my friends had happy, cooing, smiling babies. I had El Screamo. There was no […]

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Holly’s Story: Life with a Spirited Child

Holly’s Story: Life with a Spirited Child

[ 1 ] 3:21 pm |

The first 4 months of my son’s life were filled with disappointments for me. Nothing had gone the way it was ‘supposed’ to go. My first child was not an easy baby; healthy and cute, but definitely not ‘easy’. She was very fussy, and I was always nervous going out in public with her because […]

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