Comments on: High Need Babies http://www.thefussybabysite.com Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:21:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Trista http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-953 Trista Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:29:51 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-953 I wanted to say to the parents with the busy babies that usually it's their natural temperament and they very very rarely grow out of it. My 7 yr old son had acid reflux as an infant and cried for many months and had to constantly be moving. He just needed stimulated at all times! He has horrible ADHD now and is medicated to make it through school. Now I'm going through all of it over again with my 6 wk old daughter. Busy busy girl.., always fussy and always wants movement. Glad there's so many yrs between them, don't know what I'd do with 2 hyper active toddlers!! Good luck to you mommies soothing your tiny sponge brains- remember... They can sense when your stressed so leave the room for a couple minutes when they're on a rant and take a deap breath! (I'll use this advice for myself as well) I wanted to say to the parents with the busy babies that usually it’s their natural temperament and they very very rarely grow out of it. My 7 yr old son had acid reflux as an infant and cried for many months and had to constantly be moving. He just needed stimulated at all times! He has horrible ADHD now and is medicated to make it through school. Now I’m going through all of it over again with my 6 wk old daughter. Busy busy girl.., always fussy and always wants movement. Glad there’s so many yrs between them, don’t know what I’d do with 2 hyper active toddlers!! Good luck to you mommies soothing your tiny sponge brains- remember… They can sense when your stressed so leave the room for a couple minutes when they’re on a rant and take a deap breath! (I’ll use this advice for myself as well)

]]> By: Vicki http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-899 Vicki Fri, 06 Jan 2012 04:33:04 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-899 I would also like to respond to Natalie. I understand totally and you are not a bad mother for feeling the way you feel. I have an 8 month old son who has been high need since birth. Once we came home from the hospital he refused to be laid down. The second night home he screamed for the whole night and refused to nurse. He hated the car seat and would scream for however long he was in it. He got bored very easily and needed someone to keep him entertained. Sometimes I regretted deciding to have him. I would stand in the shower, when I finally got one, and wish and wish and wish to have my old life back. I want you to know that, in time, it will get better. You will learn to read your child and their cues. It may not get easier but it will get better. My son still will not sleep alone but he will tolerate sitting in his play yard for 15 to 30 minutes while I load the dishwasher or make lunch. The number one thing you need is help. Your partner, your family, a nanny. Someone to help when you have just had enough. And funny enough, I have found that my son really does cope and behave better after a night away from mommy. But maybe that is just a rested mom talking. There will always be a new challenge, but you have to just give yourself over to it all and remember that this too shall pass. Your baby today will not be the same baby tomorrow. I would also like to respond to Natalie. I understand totally and you are not a bad mother for feeling the way you feel. I have an 8 month old son who has been high need since birth. Once we came home from the hospital he refused to be laid down. The second night home he screamed for the whole night and refused to nurse. He hated the car seat and would scream for however long he was in it. He got bored very easily and needed someone to keep him entertained. Sometimes I regretted deciding to have him. I would stand in the shower, when I finally got one, and wish and wish and wish to have my old life back. I want you to know that, in time, it will get better. You will learn to read your child and their cues. It may not get easier but it will get better. My son still will not sleep alone but he will tolerate sitting in his play yard for 15 to 30 minutes while I load the dishwasher or make lunch. The number one thing you need is help. Your partner, your family, a nanny. Someone to help when you have just had enough. And funny enough, I have found that my son really does cope and behave better after a night away from mommy. But maybe that is just a rested mom talking. There will always be a new challenge, but you have to just give yourself over to it all and remember that this too shall pass. Your baby today will not be the same baby tomorrow.

]]> By: How We’ve Survived a High Need Child | The Fussy Baby Site http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-785 How We’ve Survived a High Need Child | The Fussy Baby Site Thu, 29 Dec 2011 18:03:58 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-785 [...] child really didn’t ever leave. I started to turn my thoughts from digestion to high-needs. Our baby had quite a bit of attachment anxiety. We couldn’t leave her for very long through [...] [...] child really didn’t ever leave. I started to turn my thoughts from digestion to high-needs. Our baby had quite a bit of attachment anxiety. We couldn’t leave her for very long through [...]

]]> By: Me, as a parent « Mana in Pajamas http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-749 Me, as a parent « Mana in Pajamas Thu, 22 Dec 2011 16:16:15 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-749 [...] baby Nova is 5 months old. She is what you could call a “high needs” baby, which makes life a bit difficult us. The characteristics that really stand out about [...] [...] baby Nova is 5 months old. She is what you could call a “high needs” baby, which makes life a bit difficult us. The characteristics that really stand out about [...]

]]> By: Jade http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-711 Jade Sun, 18 Dec 2011 22:38:36 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-711 I can identify and strongly sympathise with all the above comments. My son is 16 weeks & was diagnosed with acid reflux at 4 wks. However even tho he's on good medication he remains unsettled- always needs 2 b constantly moving, never sleeps more than a couple of hours and during the day will only sleep if being held. He requires my attention every waking hour of his day. For the past few weeks my partner & I (and all the grandparents) started 2 fear he may have ADHD. Tonight, after finding this article my mum phoned me excitedly to tell me & as she read it out to me over the phone I felt overjoyed that this does happen to other babies & it's not necessarily something permanent or major. I am utterly exhausted with my high need baby who has every single 1 of the 12 traits & was beginning to feel myself slipping into a dark place in recent weeks. Therefore this finding has given me serious hope & made me feel so much better. The post above from Kelly is like a carbon copy of my own circumstances my son has been able to roll for weeks now & never stops trying to sit up/crawl and if ur holding his hands he even tries 2 get onto his feet it is completely incredible. Just so glad that other people understand & are going through the same thing cos all I seem to have heard about in the past 16 weeks is perfect babies, so content & sleeping through the night etc etc whereas mine will only cat nap during the day if being held & has one stretch of sleep between 8pm-1am then struggles again after that all night. He has to be brought into my bed at the 1 o'clock wakening and then just naps for next few hours with frequent waking, fidgeting & grunting & groaning. I love him so much but absolutely DREAD being left alone with him all day while my partner goes to work lol. At least there is hope ladies & I know he will outgrow this. Thanks be to God! I can identify and strongly sympathise with all the above comments. My son is 16 weeks & was diagnosed with acid reflux at 4 wks. However even tho he’s on good medication he remains unsettled- always needs 2 b constantly moving, never sleeps more than a couple of hours and during the day will only sleep if being held. He requires my attention every waking hour of his day. For the past few weeks my partner & I (and all the grandparents) started 2 fear he may have ADHD. Tonight, after finding this article my mum phoned me excitedly to tell me & as she read it out to me over the phone I felt overjoyed that this does happen to other babies & it’s not necessarily something permanent or major. I am utterly exhausted with my high need baby who has every single 1 of the 12 traits & was beginning to feel myself slipping into a dark place in recent weeks. Therefore this finding has given me serious hope & made me feel so much better. The post above from Kelly is like a carbon copy of my own circumstances my son has been able to roll for weeks now & never stops trying to sit up/crawl and if ur holding his hands he even tries 2 get onto his feet it is completely incredible. Just so glad that other people understand & are going through the same thing cos all I seem to have heard about in the past 16 weeks is perfect babies, so content & sleeping through the night etc etc whereas mine will only cat nap during the day if being held & has one stretch of sleep between 8pm-1am then struggles again after that all night. He has to be brought into my bed at the 1 o’clock wakening and then just naps for next few hours with frequent waking, fidgeting & grunting & groaning. I love him so much but absolutely DREAD being left alone with him all day while my partner goes to work lol. At least there is hope ladies & I know he will outgrow this. Thanks be to God!

]]> By: Jade http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-712 Jade Sun, 18 Dec 2011 22:38:36 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-712 I can identify and strongly sympathise with all the above comments. My son is 16 weeks & was diagnosed with acid reflux at 4 wks. However even tho he's on good medication he remains unsettled- always needs 2 b constantly moving, never sleeps more than a couple of hours and during the day will only sleep if being held. He requires my attention every waking hour of his day. For the past few weeks my partner & I (and all the grandparents) started 2 fear he may have ADHD. Tonight, after finding this article my mum phoned me excitedly to tell me & as she read it out to me over the phone I felt overjoyed that this does happen to other babies & it's not necessarily something permanent or major. I am utterly exhausted with my high need baby who has every single 1 of the 12 traits & was beginning to feel myself slipping into a dark place in recent weeks. Therefore this finding has given me serious hope & made me feel so much better. The post above from Kelly is like a carbon copy of my own circumstances my son has been able to roll for weeks now & never stops trying to sit up/crawl and if ur holding his hands he even tries 2 get onto his feet it is completely incredible. Just so glad that other people understand & are going through the same thing cos all I seem to have heard about in the past 16 weeks is perfect babies, so content & sleeping through the night etc etc whereas mine will only cat nap during the day if being held & has one stretch of sleep between 8pm-1am then struggles again after that all night. He has to be brought into my bed at the 1 o'clock wakening and then just naps for next few hours with frequent waking, fidgeting & grunting & groaning. I love him so much but absolutely DREAD being left alone with him all day while my partner goes to work lol. At least there is hope ladies & I know he will outgrow this. Thanks be to God! I can identify and strongly sympathise with all the above comments. My son is 16 weeks & was diagnosed with acid reflux at 4 wks. However even tho he’s on good medication he remains unsettled- always needs 2 b constantly moving, never sleeps more than a couple of hours and during the day will only sleep if being held. He requires my attention every waking hour of his day. For the past few weeks my partner & I (and all the grandparents) started 2 fear he may have ADHD. Tonight, after finding this article my mum phoned me excitedly to tell me & as she read it out to me over the phone I felt overjoyed that this does happen to other babies & it’s not necessarily something permanent or major. I am utterly exhausted with my high need baby who has every single 1 of the 12 traits & was beginning to feel myself slipping into a dark place in recent weeks. Therefore this finding has given me serious hope & made me feel so much better. The post above from Kelly is like a carbon copy of my own circumstances my son has been able to roll for weeks now & never stops trying to sit up/crawl and if ur holding his hands he even tries 2 get onto his feet it is completely incredible. Just so glad that other people understand & are going through the same thing cos all I seem to have heard about in the past 16 weeks is perfect babies, so content & sleeping through the night etc etc whereas mine will only cat nap during the day if being held & has one stretch of sleep between 8pm-1am then struggles again after that all night. He has to be brought into my bed at the 1 o’clock wakening and then just naps for next few hours with frequent waking, fidgeting & grunting & groaning. I love him so much but absolutely DREAD being left alone with him all day while my partner goes to work lol. At least there is hope ladies & I know he will outgrow this. Thanks be to God!

]]> By: Kelly http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-705 Kelly Sun, 18 Dec 2011 04:32:23 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-705 My daughter is 16 weeks old and it's been the hardest 16 weeks of my life! She was diagnosed with acid reflux at two weeks old and has always been agitated and has never sat still. I finally got her on good medications but the constant motion never stops. I suspect high needs is a better diagnosis. She hardly naps and when she does she has to sleep on my chest. The naps last only a half and hour and not until recently does she sleep through the night, even then she moves in her sleep:) I have to entertain her all day long and forget quiet time she has to be held, rocked, bounced, she must be in a constant state of movement. She loves being out of the house but hates being constrained in car seats or strollers she likes being held or facing forward in the bjorn at all times. Some days I feel like I am going to never make it through her demands but other days I am amazed by her:) she is very advanced and is so determined she could roll over at 2 1/2 months and is desperately trying to crawl now. I just hope she is calms down once she can get to things on her own. Maybe she hates being a baby? Who knows, I just pray the constant movement doesn't turn into ADHD as a child! I would love an evening out with my husband but think a baby sitter would call me to come home from exhaustion, lol. Any advice on how to cope would be greatly appreciate:) My daughter is 16 weeks old and it’s been the hardest 16 weeks of my life! She was diagnosed with acid reflux at two weeks old and has always been agitated and has never sat still. I finally got her on good medications but the constant motion never stops. I suspect high needs is a better diagnosis. She hardly naps and when she does she has to sleep on my chest. The naps last only a half and hour and not until recently does she sleep through the night, even then she moves in her sleep:) I have to entertain her all day long and forget quiet time she has to be held, rocked, bounced, she must be in a constant state of movement. She loves being out of the house but hates being constrained in car seats or strollers
she likes being held or facing forward in the bjorn at all times. Some days I feel like I am going to never make it through her demands but other days I am amazed by her:) she is very advanced and is so determined she could roll over at 2 1/2 months and is desperately trying to crawl now. I just hope she is calms down once she can get to things on her own. Maybe she hates being a
baby? Who knows, I just pray the constant movement doesn’t turn into ADHD as a child! I would love an evening out with my husband but think a baby sitter would call me to come home from exhaustion, lol. Any advice on how to cope would be greatly
appreciate:)

]]> By: mary http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-662 mary Mon, 12 Dec 2011 21:59:30 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-662 Zackary, he is 21 weeks old and is now a very different baby then what he once was. The first 14 weeks were truly the hardest, but ever since then its only gotten better. I have/had a high needs baby. He cried most of the day everyday for the first 3 months of life. He was never satisfied and if he wasn't eating or sleeping, he was only happy being held and rocked in mommy or daddys arms. He knows what he likes and certainly makes it known when he is unhappy. I was diagnosed with post partum depression and now when I look back, it was partly because I felt like I wasn't a good mother because I couldn't please my constantly crying baby. He was a horrible sleeper (and still not that great but we're working on that) and only liked to sleep/nap in his swing. My husband or I spend many of nights on the couch while he slept in his swing. Until recently he was swaddled very tight for sleeping, that way he would sleep for longer stretches (couple hours at most). We lived by the book "the happiest baby on the block" by Dr harvey karp. It didn't cure him, but it was a life when we needed to calm him down and get him to sleep. We also had lots of support from parents and siblings who live close by. He did better in crowds and still does to this day. All the commotion keeps him busy for a long time. He also likes the noise. He is still a busy boy, but I know when your in the midst of the hardest part you feel like it never ends. Everybody says its going to get better, and it does. You have to believe it! Zackary, he is 21 weeks old and is now a very different baby then what he once was. The first 14 weeks were truly the hardest, but ever since then its only gotten better.

I have/had a high needs baby. He cried most of the day everyday for the first 3 months of life. He was never satisfied and if he wasn’t eating or sleeping, he was only happy being held and rocked in mommy or daddys arms. He knows what he likes and certainly makes it known when he is unhappy. I was diagnosed with post partum depression and now when I look back, it was partly because I felt like I wasn’t a good mother because I couldn’t please my constantly crying baby. He was a horrible sleeper (and still not that great but we’re working on that) and only liked to sleep/nap in his swing. My husband or I spend many of nights on the couch while he slept in his swing. Until recently he was swaddled very tight for sleeping, that way he would sleep for longer stretches (couple hours at most). We lived by the book “the happiest baby on the block” by Dr harvey karp. It didn’t cure him, but it was a life when we needed to calm him down and get him to sleep. We also had lots of support from parents and siblings who live close by.

He did better in crowds and still does to this day. All the commotion keeps him busy for a long time. He also likes the noise. He is still a busy boy, but I know when your in the midst of the hardest part you feel like it never ends. Everybody says its going to get better, and it does. You have to believe it!

]]> By: virginia http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-615 virginia Tue, 06 Dec 2011 07:30:24 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-615 My baby just started with this symptoms like a week ago. She's 8 weeks. My baby just started with this symptoms like a week ago. She’s 8 weeks.

]]> By: Natalie w http://www.thefussybabysite.com/causes/high-need-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-596 Natalie w Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:04:52 +0000 http://www.thefussybabysite.com/?page_id=925#comment-596 Hey just wanted to reply to Natalie. I seriously could have written your post. Apart from your name, I also have an under active thyroid (diagnosed at birth) and a high need baby girl (20 weeks old).  I haven't really got any advice but just wanted to say I understand. I'm due back to work in January and I'm dreading it. My baby has major separation anxiety and she's breastfed and refuses a bottle, so when left with grandma or daddy, she'll scream for hours on end, until she gets mummy. I think I've had to adjust with my expectations seriously. Some days are good and some are just pure draining. I co sleep (mostly for the fact that she has the same sleep times as your little boy, one long stretch then pure rubbish) I hold her most the day through.  I get so embarrassed when she screams the place down when I walk her in public and she's not happy in her pram and wants to be held. I just hope she'll feel more confident entertaining herself when she can sit up properly. Be nice to have just one evening out with the hubby. Let me know if you have any tips.  Hey just wanted to reply to Natalie. I seriously could have written your post. Apart from your name, I also have an under active thyroid (diagnosed at birth) and a high need baby girl (20 weeks old). 
I haven’t really got any advice but just wanted to say I understand. I’m due back to work in January and I’m dreading it. My baby has major separation anxiety and she’s breastfed and refuses a bottle, so when left with grandma or daddy, she’ll scream for hours on end, until she gets mummy.

I think I’ve had to adjust with my expectations seriously. Some days are good and some are just pure draining. I co sleep (mostly for the fact that she has the same sleep times as your little boy, one long stretch then pure rubbish) I hold her most the day through. 
I get so embarrassed when she screams the place down when I walk her in public and she’s not happy in her pram and wants to be held.
I just hope she’ll feel more confident entertaining herself when she can sit up properly.
Be nice to have just one evening out with the hubby.

Let me know if you have any tips. 

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