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emmalee
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« on: May 29, 2010, 03:25:05 AM »

Hi,

I am so relieved to have found his website and forum, so hopefully I can chat with other mum's and dad's with fussy/high needs babies. I have a beautiful 8 month old baby boy who I adore and love to bits but sometimes things can get a bit much as he is very full on. My husband is the only close support that I have (as my family live hours away) and at the end of each day I'm so exhausted as he needs and wants to be entertained all day and doesn't settle well at all for sleeps. As a result I don't get much done around the house during the day which can get a little depressing. I also have friends who have babies that sleep for hours on end, settle easily and that are happy to sit and play by themselves so I can't relate to them or them to me, in terms of our children, which I struggle with a bit. Anyway thanks for listening. Hope I get to know everyone a bit better through this forum.

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« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2010, 03:42:23 PM »

Hi, and welcome!  I'm so sorry it's taken me all weekend to reply...it's been a crazy few days around here.

Wow, I can definitely relate to the not getting things done around the house! I found when Sammy was a baby/toddler (he's 3.5 now) I often wondered what was wrong with me...why couldn't I do what other moms did? Friends would talk about cleaning the house, baking cookies, etc., and I spent the day trying to keep Sammy entertained. For us, this meant spending most of the day out of the house going to playgroups, playgrounds, etc. to keep him entertained. If we were at home, he needed a ton of attention and holding. Most dinners were prepared while holding him (gets kind of dangerous at 10 months though as you try to keep their little hands away from the oven!). Everything else productive was done during naptime and at nights. Thank goodness he slept well at that age!  Plus, my husband was around a lot and we had good friends, which made a big difference.

It's easy to get caught up on feeling jealous at people with 'easy' babies. I felt that way ALOT. I just wanted to do what I wanted to do, and not always have to cater to Sammy's whims. I guess that's one of those things these HN babies teach us: they came into our families with these special little personalities, and we need to slow down and meet their needs, whether we want to or not!! Smiley



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« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2010, 01:22:01 PM »

Hi Emmalee

I have just joined this site too in the hope of finding some support from people in the same kind of situation. My little girl is just over 5 months and boy does she make me work hard! She is also high needs and needs constant entertaining. I so relate to you that your friends babies are different and they cannot understand what it is like to have such a demanding child. I still try and do all the parent and baby group stuff and usually just come away depressed as it's always my baby that is 'trouble'. Wish I could find a high needs support group to meet up with where I live.

May be we can swap tips on how we mange to keep them entertained all day, every day - we might both do things the other one doesn't. I am always interested to hear new ideas to help keep our special high needs babies happy.

Hope you are doimg OK - just wanted to let you know that you are not alone (even if it fells that way sometimes!)
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« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2010, 11:26:36 AM »

I am currently reading "The Baby Book" by Dr. Sears, and I highly recommend it for anyone with a high needs baby. He is a big promoter of attachment style parenting, which I am learning and practicing with my 5.5 month old son. Get yourself a sling, and wear your baby as much as possible. I have two slings, a Snugli and a Moby wrap...both are lifesavers!
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