Stop the guilt and know the facts.
Since you’re on this site, chances are you have a high need baby or toddler who’s struggling with sleep. When people ask, “Is he sleeping through the night yet?”, you probably want to scream. You’d be thrilled if your baby was only waking 3 times a night, never mind sleeping through the night!
Here are some other possible scenarios you may be dealing with:
The one thing I think is true of nearly each person reading this is that the idea of sleeping through the night, and having restorative 1-2 hour naps feels like an unattainable dream.
And yet, you may have been told that high need babies are simply programmed not to sleep. That these are the kids who are destined to be poor sleepers, and they can’t learn new ways of falling asleep. In other words, that sleep training doesn’t work for these kids.
Or, you may be wondering what sleep training (or sleep learning) looks like with high need kids: Which methods work best? How long does it take? Do I have to let my baby cry it out, or are there ‘no cry’ methods? Can I do it myself, or do I need a sleep coach?
Before we go too much further, I thought it would be helpful to give you some context into my own personal story of raising two high need kids.
High need babies and sleep has been a topic of interest to me since my own daughter was born in 2004. She was high needs, although I wasn’t familiar with the term back then. I just thought she was grumpier and more particular than other babies!
As a newborn, I was able to find ways to get her to sleep. Usually if I would rock her, she would eventually drift off to sleep. However, as she got a bit older, rocking stopped working. I tried every method I could think of to help her fall asleep: bringing her into bed with me, walking her around the neighbourhood in a sling or stroller, the Baby Whisperer’s techniques, everything I could think of. Nothing worked! I read every baby sleep book I could get my hands on, but nothing seemed to work for my intense, persistent, active little girl.
To be honest, I felt like a failure as a mom; I knew she desperately needed sleep, and yet I had no idea how to help her get it.
Then my son came 2.5 years later. Talk about feeling like a failure! He had troubles sleeping from day 1. He slept in 45-minute increments, day and night. Feed 45 minutes, sleep 45 minutes. And he would wake up screeching every time! I had no idea babies (or grownups!) could get so little sleep and still survive.
So believe me when I say I understand what you’re going through!
My kids (my son in particular) were the inspiration for starting The Fussy Baby Site back in 2007. The site was borne from my desire to help other parents who were dealing with a fussy, colicky or high need baby.
Over the past 7.5 years, I’ve had the privilege or interviewing many experts in the fields of infant temperament, sleep and feeding, including Harvey Karp, Marc Weissbluth, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, Jack Newman, Linda Budd, Judy Arnall and others. I’ve been interviewed for many well-known media outlets including Today’s Parent, MSN Today Moms, Education.com, Breakfast Television and CBC Radio Canada to name a few. I’ve also regularly worked with infant sleep consultants, and have talked with thousands of parents across the globe about their struggles with their fussy or high need babies. I also write a regular column offering parenting stories and advice on the Huffington Post.
All this to say, I’ve been immersed in ‘fussy baby culture’ for a very long time! The idea for this eBook, Sleep Training and High Need Babies, came to me about a year ago. I regularly talk with parents who feel helpless to do anything about their baby’s sleep. While I would never push sleep training on any parent, I also want tired moms and dads to know the facts and to feel empowered to make a decision they feel good about!
Who This Book is For:
Who This Book is NOT for:
*This is NOT a step-by-step guide or specific strategy for how to sleep train! What it will do is give you clarity and confidence to make a decision about whether sleep training is right for you. It will also point you to resources to get started on the path to healthy sleep.*
In addition, the book contains personal stories from parents who have helped their high need child learn to sleep, using various methods; ranging from ‘gentle’, gradual methods to methods that involve more tears. These stories are a capstone of the book, giving you ideas for developing your own sleep training strategy, and helping you decide whether to go the DIY route or hire a sleep coach.
If you’re at the end of your rope, or your usual methods of getting your baby to sleep are no longer working, it may be time to take the next step and decide whether sleep training is right for your family.
This book will help you sort through the clutter, so you can be confident in your decision whether to sleep train or not. No guilt, no second-guessing, just a solid plan of action for how to get your entire family sleeping!
This 60-page eBook is written in clear, easy-to-read language so you can read it as quickly as possible. Upon ordering, you’ll be able to choose which version you’d like to read: pdf (to read on your computer), mobi (for Kindle) or epub (for iPads and most other e-readers and mobile devices).
I’ve spent months putting this book together, trying to answer every question I could think of about high need babies and sleep training. I am genuinely passionate about providing the best and most useful information possible to sleep-deprived parents!
However, if for ANY reason you aren’t completely satisfied with the contents of this book, I will happily give you a 100% refund within 30 days, no questions asked. I want you to be completely satisfied, so please don’t hesitate to let me know if this book doesn’t meet your expectations!
Please select one of the following three formats (if in doubt, choose PDF!):