The Fussy Baby Site recently conducted an online survey to find out what parents of fussy or colicky babies really go through on a day to day basis. Having had an extremely fussy baby myself, even I was surprised by some of the findings.
In our survey of 100 parents,
The most surprising finding for me, personally, was the reluctance of parents to leave their fussy baby with a non-family member.
‘I don’t want someone to get angry at him and lose it.’
‘[They] couldn’t handle him.’
‘I don’t trust them.’
‘Felt too guilty/ashamed to put someone not related through the crying.’
‘I feel as though he would have been too much for someone who didn’t love him.’
‘…I’m afraid that someone who doesn’t know him and love him might get pushed to the point where they might hurt him.’
‘I don’t think they could handle it…I worry somewhat they might shake/hurt him.’
‘Other parents not understanding your situation and also passing judgement.’
‘Fear of [the] future.’
‘Feeling helpless when he cries.’
‘Not being able to comfort him no matter what I do.’
Parents who suffered with depression because of having a fussy baby said,
‘Sometimes it can be overwhelming and lonely. People try to make you feel like it’s the child gaining control.’
‘No clinical depression, but had some very, very low moments.’
‘They just couldn’t give any answers.’
‘They just don’t understand.’
‘The doctor said…he’s just a sensitive, fussy baby.’
‘Our doctor told us to ‘sing to her’…completely did not get it’.
‘Wish I, as a new mom who really went through the ringer the first 3 months, got a bit of…sympathy…’
‘Was always being told ‘she will grow out of it’.
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