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Natasha’s Story: Two Colicky Babies

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Colic story

My name is Natasha and I am a postpartum/nursery nurse.

I have always wanted to be a mom. When I found out I was pregnant with our first in 08′ we were thrilled. I thought I knew all there was to know about having a baby since that’s what I did for a living.

I was the master of soothing babies.

I had Harvey Karp techniques down to a T. And swaddling? I was known as the swaddle master. I had a great natural birth and knew I was breastfeeding without a doubt – no ifs, ands or buts.

My healthy baby girl was perfect and looked just like me. Around day 2 of getting her home, however, she started crying. Swaddled, fed, changed, everything. It started at night and then during the day. If she was layed down at all she cried.

I got relief for 15 minutes a day when I blow dried my hair or when breastfeeding. She didn’t want to be held by anyone else. I called doctors and lactation consultants and they gave me every advice under the sun.

I had a forceful letdown and they thought it was crying from excess swallowing. I tried different positions and pumping first but nothing helped. I then made the torturous decision to give up anything dairy or containing the milk protein (which seemed like everything!).

I also cut out common gas inducing foods. Just when I thought it was working she’d start again. I got barely any sleep for 5 or so months straight. My husband slept in the other room, because as a navy aviator, he needed his rest before flights.

She would only sleep lying on my stomach or chest. I got very familiar with babywearing ad that was my only way of keeping her calm. There were days on end where I cried all day. I finally got some relief from the antidepressant Lexapro. After around 6 months she started smiling and things were looking up. She was soo much better around 9 months. I could finally enjoy being a mom!

When she was 20 months we decided to try and have another.

How could we possibly have another colicky baby? Right?!

Wrong!

I had another baby girl all natural and she was great. She even slept without being held. Well – For 2 weeks anyway.

The crying started just like it had with my first. At night, then all the time if not held, bounced or rocked. I had been through it before but I almost felt worst this time, like I was in the twilight zone.

How can this be happening again?

What did I do wrong?

Am I being punished?

I longed to be the mom who puts the baby in the carseat and just goes along with her life. Who could actually sleep. I just wanted to enjoy my child.

After colic all I can say is thank God it’s over and I can enjoy my children now. To women going through it I say babywearing was my savior and if it weren’t for breastfeeding I don’t think I would have bonded with my babies.

I am still breastfeeding my 19 month old and don’t plan on stopping until we are ready. I thank my husband for not divorcing me and sticking through it with me.

I hope my story helps other moms who are dealing with this to know they aren’t alone.

About 

Holly Klaassen has been running The Fussy Baby Site since 2007. Inspired to start the site after giving birth to her second child, the site aims to provide support and information to parents of fussy, colicky, high need or 'spirited' babies and kids. The main message of this site? You are not alone! When Holly isn't writing for The Fussy Baby Site, she can be found writing for other businesses on topics related to digital marketing, social media, business, and of course, parenting.

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  1. Jay says:

    I relate to this a lot. My first baby was what I thought was the devil incarnate – he woke 10-15 times each night until he was 2 (with a few good patches), but at least during the day (though he refused to sleep) he didn’t cry ALL the time. My husband convinced me that the chances of having a second the same were unlikely, and so we had another. And yes, I got one that was WORSE than the first. 7 months on and we haven’t had a solid nights sleep from him, he is constantly tense, and we have tried everything bar sedatives to calm him down and stop the relentless energy/crying/tension/misery. Some of us are just unlucky, I suppose.

  2. Marcia says:

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I, too, am a nurse who had worked in L&D, postpartum, and the nursery, but when my firstborn was a high needs baby I was completely taken by surprise. I can’t even tell you how many times I thought that I shouldn’t have become a mom because I was so horrible at it and I couldn’t wait for my infant to grow up a little and get out of the baby stage.Our second is just a little over a month and so far not as high needs as my spirited toddler but more high needs than many other infants that I know. I have moments of anxiety when he is screaming and can only calm down while swaddled, bouncing, being shushed, and lying on my chest that my second baby experience will be as stressful as the first. Thank goodness that at least this time around I know that it isn’t my parenting.

    • Natasha says:

      I feel the same way. It was the anxiety that got me the most. You can relate to this being a nurse but when I first started my job as a nurse I would have dreams that I heard the patient call bells and iv pumps beeping over and over. Well, same with the baby crying. Even when I had the opportunity to sleep I would wake in panic thinking I heard the baby screaming when in fact it was just my mind. I was living in a nightmare. Thinking of that scream still gets me on edge. Good luck to you and your new little one. It gets so much easier over time with both of them.

  3. Shoshana says:

    I was suggested this website by my cousin.
    I’m not sure whether this post is written by him as no one else know such detailed about my problem. You are amazing! Thanks!

  4. Janelle says:

    Thank you for your story. My first was just like yours and I found out a little late how helpful baby wearing was. It ended up keeping me sane! We often talk about another but I think back to those days (my daughter is 14 months) and I cringe! Hearing your story that you indeed had a second baby with colic frightens me!

  5. Meg says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. Our first daughter is now nearing a year old and she had colic, reflux, tortecolis and is very high spirited. The colic and reflux got much better at 5 months old and finally slept a little and we regained some sanity. I am so fearful of having a second for all these reasons. It is good to know you can survive it a second time. =D

  6. Katie says:

    Thank you times a million for writing this. My son is a high spirited child who, up until 10 months of age, seemed to dislike pretty much anything on the planet. He cried so much and slept very poorly. It was torcherous. Thank you for talking about bonding and not being able to enjoy your newborns. I believe that there are so many parents that have similar feelings, but are scared to put it in words. Your courage and honesty will set many people free. So thank you, and thank you again.

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